This is what it really feels like to have super orgasms
"The first time I ever had what people refer to as a 'super orgasm', I was 16. I was with my boyfriend, and we were obviously atit.When it happened, I was completely scared. I didn't know what it was and didn't even know the term orgasm. It was similar to what I'd felt before, but it just kept coming and coming. It was basically a really intense rush, and that first time, it was only a few orgasms in a row.
"Obviously, at the time, I didn't know this. But it was a G spot, internal orgasm and there was no clitoral stimulation at all. Because we were both young, he didn't know what was going on. We were both kind of like, ‘woah’. He thought I was in pain and that I was hurting. We were both pretty naïve.
It's like you're vomiting over and over again and there's nothing you can do to stop it.
"I wanted to have it again, but didn’t know how to. I didn’t even know how I'd managed to have it the first time. I’d never masturbated or anything like that, I had no clue. Then, when I was 18, I started working in a sex shop and using toys. That’s when I actually understood all about orgasms, and how to make them happen. So two years after my first, I had another.
"I guess the excitement of using toys meant I just kept going. Even when I should have stopped, I kept using the toy. That's when it happened - I kept getting more orgasms. The only thing I can compare it to is when you're vomiting, and you just keep being sick over and over again and there's nothing you can do to stop it.
"The term 'super orgasm' makes it seem like something unachievable, and something weird, like a freak show, so I don't like to use that term. To me, it’s just many multiple orgasms – some people have more, some people have less.There are women that have issues orgasming, and I believe that term makes it worse for them.
"After the first few multiples, my obsession of using toys faded and I then stopped trying to achieve it with toys. It wasn't until about three years ago, when I was 25, that I started achieving it properly with a partner.
It’s not something I genuinely chase after, one orgasm is enough to be honest.
"Over the years, I've learned how to achieve many multiple orgasms. For me, I have to be really comfortable and relaxed in order to stimulate myself. And it's the same with a partner. Doggy style and any position where my partner's behind me really works. That's the main position I need to be in to achieve it, but it also happens sometimes when I’m on top.
"The key thing I've learned is to not really think about it. Even now, it’s not something I genuinely chase after, one orgasm is enough to be honest. Sometimes I orgasm, sometimes I don’t at all. I genuinely think to make it happen you just need to be enjoying sex with your partner, and enjoying the moment and not thinking about the end goal.
"When I do get them, it’s like with any orgasm in that it might be really light or really intense. The most intense one I remember having was with a guy I was seeing a couple of years ago, and it was like my vagina just didn’t relax at all and stayed contracted for a longer period of time than it needed to. It became quite uncomfortable and while he wanted to keep going, I just couldn’t deal with it. With those really intense ones, having so many can become uncomfortable.
"I'll have my first normal orgasm, then a break in the middle for a couple of seconds where I relax a little bit, then it will come again and the more it happens, the shorter the space between each one becomes. When I have the first orgasm, I just continue. If I’m on top, I'll just continue with the same movements. I've found you get a bit more sensitive, your body’s a lot more tense but if you continue, that will reduce and then pick back up.
I genuinely have never counted, I don't know how you could count.
"I know I’ve reached at least seven in a row, but I genuinely have never counted, I don't know how you could count. You get the contractions followed by this explosion joyful feeling, and having quite a few of that feeling continuously can be a lot on your body.
"Sometimes, when you have sex with a partner who knows you have multiples, they can start expecting you to have them all the time. While I’ve never had people freak out about it, some have seen it as something they really want to achieve and that creates the expectation. Then it’s like, ‘oh why didn’t you achieve it?’ like they’re disappointed.
It’s not something that should be expected.
"It’s not something that should be expected or that you should try to achieve. I really don’t want anyone to see it as a goal. Every woman’s orgasm is different. It’s important for women to understand their bodies and really figure out what’s normal for them.
"Ignorance can be bliss. For me, it was totally normal until I knew what I was having were multiple orgasms. Realising not everyone has orgasms and speaking to women from other backgrounds made me aware it wasn't so common. In my work as co-founder of Scarlet Ladies, a female-only community aiming to normalise conversations surrounding female sexuality and pleasure, I talked to a lot of women before realising what I experienced was different.
"I’d be speaking to our co-founder Sarah about having quite a few in a row and she’d be like, ‘WHAT?’. Then I started speaking with other women and found that experiencing multiple orgasms isn't the norm. Even as someone who's quite sexually relaxed, it still made me insecure realising that it isn't the norm for a lot of women. Obviously all the ladies I spoke to thought it was great and were supportive of my own personal experiences, it made me feel a bit insecure as I was worried people would see me as a show off, like I couldn't understand the issues so many women go through with regards to orgasms and their sexuality."
"For years, I tried to learn to squirt and nearly popped my ears trying to push hard, but then one day, it happened. And when it did, it wasn’t because I was trying. I was just masturbating with no one around and suddenly was like, 'Oh my god did I just wee myself?' Multiple orgasms are like that, it's all about enjoying yourself and being comfortable. When you’re not really thinking about them, that’s when multiple orgasms will happen.
"Understand yourself, know what positions work for you, enjoy the sex that you’re having with yourself or with a partner and I don’t see a reason why it shouldn’t happen. Obviously there are a lot of complicated reasons why women don’t orgasm, but my advice would be explore what makes you work.
Having multiple orgasms is no reason to be ashamed.
"While I don't want to add more pressure to women to have multiple orgasms, I think it's very important to show what some women can achieve to normalise the fact that women are sexual. Women who are multi orgasmic should also feel normal and relieved that there are other women just like them, and that having multiple orgasms is no reason to be ashamed.
"I recently appeared on a Channel 4 documentary, called The Super Orgasm, and met other women who also experienced multiples. Each of us had really different experiences and we were all unique.
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